Sex and Intimacy coaching for women
- How to bring passion into your relationship
- Exploring your own sexual pleasure
- Overcoming sexual trauma and abuse
- Overcoming low sexual desire
- Overcoming sexual shame
- Sexual healing and scar tissue remediation
Dating and Relationships
Whether you are a single woman, in a relationship, or transitioning out of a long term relationship, it is challenging for many women to express themselves sexually and communicate their intimacy desires. Women have been socialized to have shame around sex and body image, to fear unleashing our passion, and to be a passive recipient, rather than an active receiver. I will help you understand your sexual desires and get comfortable asking for what you want.
Low Sexual Desire and Better Orgasms
Many women struggle with orgasm and feel a lot of pressure to perform. Women have a hard time turning off their brain, relaxing, and surrendering to physical pleasure and sensations. Understanding the anatomy of female arousal and your own unique arousal pattern will allow you to better communicate your needs and desires. Learn new tools to increase your sexual energy, discover your feminine side and find your “sexy”. Find new ways to enhance your sexual pleasure, increase your orgasmic potential, and experience prolonged ecstasy and bliss.
Sexual Abuse and Trauma
One in four women experience some form of sexual abuse and trauma including non-consensual touch, pain during intercourse, and wounds from medical procedures (GYN exams, C-Sections, episiotomies, etc). Women who have experienced trauma are five times more likely to have challenges with sex, including painful intercourse, problems having an orgasm, and feeling numb.
All women experience emotional wounds from personal relationships. All of these wounds leave scars in our body. Some scars are visible and the scar tissue that forms around them can impede normal blood flow causing constrictions around nerves and muscles. This can be treated through scar tissue remediation. Other emotional scars are formed deep within our body but can be healed through somatic based trauma resolution.
In Their Own Words
“I went into this feeling anxious – like I was opening a Pandora’s box I’d long held shut – but left feeling safe to – slowly and at my pace – explore the unresolved emotional issues (shame) that have prevented full sexual expression and interrupted my pleasure/confidence/power. You’re in good hands with Xanet.”
– R.B. Sacramento, CA
“Xanet has cultivated a level of compassion and understanding that is an amazing gift. At a recent appointment she demonstrated the power of touch, of re-contextualizing memories, and how important it is to feel heard and understood. I knew these in theory before, but hadn’t realized how absent they were in my life and exactly what I was missing”.
– B.K., San Francisco
“Working with you gave me the space to be vulnerable, relaxed and finally own my own feelings. I am deeply grateful for this opportunity”.
– S.F., Marin
“I experienced warm, sensitive bodywork and breath sessions with Xanet. As a licensed therapist, I was impressed with her coaching, communication, and intuitive skills. She created an atmosphere of trust and safety.”
– Stella, San Francisco
Holistic Pelvic Care™: Caring for the Root
Holistic Pelvic Care™ is a practice used to help women with pelvic issues such as pain, incontinence, low libido and painful intercourse. It helps alleviate congestion in the pelvic bowl and restores balance on both an energetic, physical and emotional level. It can be used preventively to help alleviate potential problems and is also very powerful in helping women connect to their creative center and potential. It is highly recommended for all postpartum women.
Holistic Pelvic Care™, founded by Tami Lynn Kent, a physical therapist and energy healer, recognizes that a woman’s root contains a vast array of information and that it is an access point to our emotions, traumatic events in our life, and to our connection with Spirit.
Congestion in the pelvic bowl (ovaries and womb) causes blocks that inhibit the flow of energy. These blocks can range from unexpressed emotions such as grief and anger, to physical wounds from surgeries and childbirth, to sexual abuse and trauma. This practice not only helps a woman strengthen her pelvic muscles, but it also helps the body restore our natural hormones, both of which are integral to experiencing more sexual pleasure. It also helps a woman understand the core emotional patterns in her body and how those patterns can be cleared and changed.
Common conditions that Holistic Pelvic Care helps treat:
- Pelvic Pain
- Urinary Leakage or Incontinence
- Post Partum Complaints (post childbirth, caesarean, miscarriage)
- Menopausal symptom complaints such as dryness
- Low Libido
- Painful Intercourse and Vaginismus
- Organ Prolapse
- Fertility preparation and support
Holistic Pelvic Care™ is part of an integrated health and wellness practice. Depending on the condition, referrals may be made to Naturopaths, Acupuncturists, Chiropractors, Bodyworkers, and Energy Healers.
IN THEIR OWN WORDS
Pelvic Bowl Massage
“Words flowed from Xanet’s soft, rhythmic voice. Her soothing tones guided me to relax, breath deep and feel. Xanet truly shifted my relationship with my body. After the massage, I felt balanced, centered and deeply calm with a renewed sense of connection and awareness to my pelvic space. I love thinking of my pelvic bowel as the source of feminine power!”
I’m deeply grateful to Xanet. With Holistic Pelvic Care she helped me finally feel a strong authentic bond with my 5.5 month old daughter. After much preparing for a natural child birth, I was induced at 42 weeks for 2 days and then had a c-section. I felt anger and deep sadness towards my body, myself and my OBGYN (who did all the right things and saved our lives). The feelings of gratitude and love for my child seemed superficial and fake.
In the following months, old sexual traumas popped up again, especially while I was nursing. I felt vulnerable, aggravated and very hurt in a moment when looking at my daughter nursing so peacefully should have brought me joy. Xanet made me feel safe to explore old wounds, let go of the bad and preserve the good. Having done many years of therapy, all the pieces were familiar to me, many of them much belabored, yet it was with Xanet’s caring help that these old pieces came together as one, mapped onto my body and as a positive physical experience.
I am feeling complete, joyful and wonderfully connected to my daughter, my partner and my life. I wish Xanet’s work was standard of care for any mother who experienced an interrupted birth.
– L.R., Palo Alto
The Empowered Women’s Guide to Orgasmic Bliss
An Online Group Program for Women Who Are Ready to Create the Love Life They Desire!
This program focuses on helping you:
- Embrace all of you and learn how to truly love yourself
- Rid yourself of limiting beliefs and shame around your sexuality
- Deeply connect with and listen to your body
- Learn new tools and skills to ignite your love life
Intensives for Women
Intensives for women could include coaching and education on such subjects as:
- Healing shame, sexual trauma and wounding
- Connecting with your own female sexual energy
- Orgasm coaching
- Learning the power of surrender
- Strengthening intimacy skills
IN THEIR OWN WORDS
Wow! This woman really listens to the body!
“I had a fabulous revealing to me session with Xanet and feel seen and held. I am glad for the realizations and new awareness in my body facilitated by her. I am excited for more!”
– Laura S
“In my very first session with Xanet I felt more open and vocal about my sexuality than I have ever been. Xanet created a safe space where I felt supported and accepted as I am and where I am. That allowed me to unearth some things that I didn’t realize were in the way of me having the sexual freedom that I am seeking. What an empowering experience! “