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Recommended Resources

This list is hardly complete.  There are hundreds of books about sex on Amazon but these are the ones that I keep on my bookshelves. I also would refer you to Joan Price’s comprehensive list of resources in her book The Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50.

 

SEXUAL TRAUMA AND ABUSE

Beyond Surviving: The Final Stage in Recovery from Sexual Abuseby Rachel Grant

Rachel Grant has numerous outstanding resources available on her website: rachelgrantcoaching.comincluding Podcasts, a very active and large Facebook Group, “Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse”, and group and individual support.

 

Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Traumaby Stacey Haines, Cleis Press (2007)

 

In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodnessby Peter Levine (North Atlantic Books 2010)

 

Overcoming Trauma through Yoga: Reclaiming Your Bodyby David Emerson & Elizabeth Hopper (North Atlantic Books, 2011)

 

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Traumaby Boessel van Der Kolk (Penguin Books, 2015 Reprint)

 

Waking The Tiger: Healing Traumaby Peter Levine (North Atlantic Books 1997)

 

Recommended Trauma Therapies/Workshops

 

Somatic Experiencing, www.traumahealing.orgfor a list of certified practitioners in the US and internationally

 

EMDR International www.emdria.site-ym.comfor a list of certified EMDR practitioners in the US and internationally

 

Smart Body Smart Mind, www.irenelyon.comA comprehensive online workshop for healing the nervous system with advanced SE practitioner Irene Lyons.

 

 

WOMAN’S SEXUALITY

 

Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that will Transform Your Sex Life, by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.  (Simon and Schuster 2015).

 

Our Bodies Ourselves: A New Edition for a New Era,by Boston Woman’s Health Collective (Touchstone 2017).

 

Sex for One: The Joy of Self Lovingby Betty Dodson, Ph.D.  (Harmony 1996)

 

She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman, by Ian Kerner (William Morrow Paperbacks 2009).

 

Vagina, by Naomi Wolf (Virago Press 2013)

 

Woman’s Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Treasureby Sheri Winston (Mango Garden Press 2009)

 

Recommended Workshops and Classes

 

The Empowered Woman’s Guide to Orgasmic Bliss:  Xanet Pailet, www.powerofpleasure.com

Body Talk Workshop: Betty Dodson, Ph.D, www.dodsonandross.com

Jade Pleasure: Layla Martin, www.laylamartin.com

The Yoni Temple Retreat: Ashley Apple, www.ashleyapple.com

 

 

MOTHERHOOD AND SEX

 

Mothering from the Center: Tapping Your Body’s Natural Energy for Pregnancy, Birth and Parenting,by Tami Lynn Kent (Atria Books 2013).

 

Sexy Mamas: Keeping Your Sex Life Alive While Raising Kidsby Cathy Winks (New World Library 2004)

 

 

MENOPAUSE AND SEX

 

The Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50: How to Maintain—or Regain—a Spicy, Satisfying Sex Lifeby Joan Price (Cleis Press 2014)

 

The Secret Pleasures of Menopause: A Guide to Creating Vibrant Health through Pleasureby Christiane Northrup, M.D. (Hay House 2009)

 

The Hormone Cure: Reclaim Balance, Sleep and Sex Drive, by Sarah Gottfried, M.D., (Scribner 2014)

 

The Female Brain by Louanne Brizandine, M.D., (Harmony 2007)

 

Tantric Sex and Menopause: Practices for Spiritual and Sexual Renewalby Diane Richardson (Destiny Books 2018)

 

 

SEXUAL EXPLORATION FOR COUPLES

 

Guide To Getting It Onby Paul Joannides (Goofy Foot Press 2013)

 

The Little Black Book of Sex Positionsby Dan and Jennifer Bartichi (Skyhorse Publishing 2013)

 

Science for Sexual Happiness:  A Guide to Reclaiming Erotic Pleasures, by Caffyn Jesse (Eros Spirit 2016)

 

Succulent Sex Craft: Your Hands-On Guide to Erotic Play & Practiceby Sheri Winston (Mango Garden 2014)

 

There are a number of really fun and creative sex phone apps for couples:

 

Pillow

IKamasutra

Kindu

69 Places

Dirty Game—Hot Truth or Dare

 

 

TANTRA

 

The Art of Sexual Ecstasy: The Path of Sacred Sexuality for Western Loversby Margot Anand (Jeremy P. Tarcher Inc, 1989)

 

The Art of Everyday Ecstasy: The Seven Tantric Keys for Bringing Passion, Spirit and Joy into Every Part of Your Lifeby Margot Anand (Harmony 1999)

 

The Art of Sexual Magic: Cultivating Sexual Energy to Transform Your Lifeby Margot Anand (TarcherPerigree 1996)

 

The Couples Kama Sutra: The Guide to Deepening Your Intimacy with Incredible Sex by Elizabeth McGrath (Sonoma Press 2016)

 

Tantric Sex for Women: A Guide for Lesbian, Bi, Hetero and Solo Loversby Christa Schulte (Krug & Schadenberg 2005)

 

Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Centuryby Barbara Carrellas (Celestial Arts 2007)

 

Recommended Tantra Schools

 

Ecstatic Living Institute www.ecstaticliving.com

 

Source School of Tantra Yoga www.sourcetantra.com

 

Quodoshka www.qoudoshka.org

 

Urban Tantra www.barbaracarrellas.com

 

SEXUALITY WORKSHOPS AND RECOMMENDED PRACTITIONERS

 

Ecstatic Living Institute www.ecstaticliving.com  In addition to offering Tantra workshops, ELI also offers sexuality workshops such as Ecstatic Lover (created by Xanet Pailet and Kai Wu), Ecstatic Touch, and Ecstatic Relationships.

 

Human Awareness Institute www.hai.orgOffers sexuality workshops for individuals and couples

 

Holistic Pelvic Care, www.wildfeminine.comOffers training and a list of approved practitioners.

 

Sexological Body Work, www.sexologicalbodyworkers.orgOffers a list of certified sexological bodyworkers in the US and Internationally.

 

Somatica Institute, www.somaticainstitute.com  Offers training in the Somatica® Method of Sex and Intimacy Coaching, Couples Workshops, and Individual Coaching by Certified Somatica coaches.

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