“What I love the most about this book, is the way in which Xanet masterfully weaves in her own story in such a vulnerable way. She makes it completely relatable to every woman’s experience, and provides all of us a path forward to living an orgasmic life.”

– Dr. Emily Morse, Founder & host of Sex With Emily


“A woman who’s been there–out of touch with her own capacity for erotic connection and pleasure–and healed herself, tackles all the stumbling blocks for other people’s inability to touch this deep source of joy. Fraught social messages, shame, and trauma impact so many of us, but as Xanet Pailet shows, there IS a path out of that thicket and into intimacy, deep sexual pleasure, and a newly-awakened body. Take this journey with her and be amazed at the destination.”

– Carol Queen, Ph.D., Staff Sexologist, Good Vibrations

“I wrote this book because I am passionate about helping individuals who feel broken reclaim their sexuality and their pleasure, and transform their lives. I want women who are struggling with sex to understand that help is available and that they can have healthy, passionate sex lives. I wrote this book for the 20 year old who was date raped, the 30 year old mom who was traumatized during childbirth, the 40 year old divorced women who has never experienced an orgasm, the 50 year old who is struggling with menopause and low libido, and the 60 plus year old women who is ready to explore her sexuality and experience orgasmic bliss.”

– Xanet Pailet

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Overcome your discomfort: Living An Orgasmic Life is written for anyone who finds sex challenging or feels uncomfortable with their sex life. Women who are alienated from their erotic side due to sexual abuse or trauma will find healing balm in these pages. Women who can’t surrender into pleasure, can’t sustain intimacy, or want to reclaim and feel empowered in their sexuality will greatly benefit from this book.

Awaken your sexuality: Challenges with sexuality are all too common in our society and not frequently discussed in an open and thoughtful manner. In Living An Orgasmic Life, Xanet Pailet explores the many reasons that cause men and women to disconnect from their sexuality, including shame, body image issues, sexual abuse and trauma, physical wounding, and fears of intimacy. This essential guide is filled with practical advice and tools to help all awaken their sexuality in a healthy way and reclaim their libido.

Add sex back into your marriage: According to the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, 20% of married couples are only having sex once a month―that’s considered a sexless marriage. And those numbers are likely significantly under-reported and do not account for the large number of women and men who stay in their marriage for other reasons (e.g. money, children) but have completely unsatisfying sex lives. Even so, the number of reported sexless marriages has quadrupled in the last 20 years. Living An Orgasmic Life is filled with lessons and practical exercises that can take your sex life from non-existent or mediocre to fulfilling on every level.

Welcome to the Power of Pleasure!


There’s a myth that you can’t have it all…love, passion, intimacy and great sex. So, you make compromises. Trading off one for the other. Love and intimacy but no sex. Sex but no passion or pleasure. Is it even possible to have what you want?

Yes! Your sexuality is the most powerful door towards personal transformation and growth. Regardless of where you are on your personal journey or how long you’ve experienced challenges, I can help.

I offer a unique pathway to sex and intimacy that is more powerful and effective than traditional talk therapy. Using a holistic, somatic based embodied approach, you will learn the skills you need to have the love, passion, intimacy and great sex you desire.

“One of the most courageous things I’ve ever done was to say “yes” to working with Xanet. In our time together I am feeling increasingly liberated and sexy! She holds a super safe, accepting container in which I can be exactly where I am AND take bold steps forward. I’m thrilled to be on this journey with her.”  

– Jean Kathryn Carlson

I invite you to open yourself up to awaken your body, experience more pleasure, increase your confidence, and create more intimate and juicy relationships.

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