How to Heighten Your Lovemaking by Using All Five Senses

When was the last time you stopped to fully experience and appreciate all five of your senses? Now, when was the last time you were fully aware of all 5 senses during sex?

Any time you do any activity in life with the intention of being fully present, you are able to experience things in a new way that makes you appreciate them more and embody them more fully. The same is doubly true of sex, since all 5 senses are always engaged, even if some of them are mostly unconscious for you.

It can be fun to get caught up in the moment and just rush to an exciting climax, but sometimes it can be even better have sex in a slower, more intentional way- where every breath, every touch, every sound is given more attention, and can therefore be experienced much more fully. In fact, just rushing towards the Big O can actually make sex less pleasurable overall.

Here are some exciting ways to bring a whole new level of sensuality into your bedroom tonight:

Sight

Let’s start with an easy one- sight.

Generally, men respond a bit more to visual stimuli than women, tending to “zoom in” and focus on sexually exciting images. Women, physiologically, are also stimulated visually, but it is a bit more subconscious. They need a few other factors in place to more fully experience feelings of arousal.

So, ladies- take advantage of this! Obviously, you can send a quick little sexy pic to your man, but be a little artistic with it. Studies show that men tend to focus on one area at a time (they don’t need to see a woman’s face to be aroused by her body, for instance), so try sending him something abstractly naughty.

Because symbols and vision are intimately connected, use certain visual clues to send each other messages. For instance, sexy underwear on the floor by the door means that you aren’t wearing it… lipstick kisses on the mirror mean she’s thinking about kissing you… and giving your partner “that look” tells them everything they need to know about how you’re feeling in just a quick second!

Then, think about your “visual presentation” when you are being intimate with your partner. Think about what you are wearing, and how that looks from your partner’s perspective. Think about how close or far away you are from them, and how that changes their perspective. Angle your body to show off your assets, and be really visually expressive about exactly what you are feeling in the moment. Strip-teases are an excellent example of these principles in action.

Touch

The next sense that immediately comes to mind is the sense of touch. Intimacy is largely about the act of giving and receiving touching, and it is really fun to play with this sense.

Vary the type of touch that you give your partner. Try small, light touches, like the brush of your fingers across their arm. Larger touches, like pulling them close, entwining your legs, and broad strokes across their back can come next. Vary between soft touches and touches involving more pressure. Some partners even appreciate a bit of roughness during intimacy.

It is really almost sad to think of how little we experience touch in our daily lives. Women generally experience a bit more- friends hug, women tend to be more physically affectionate with their children, etc., but men miss out on this touch frequently. Make sure that you spend plenty of touching and holding time during sex- you’ll both leave feeling more close and fulfilled!

Smell

Smell is one of the most powerful of the senses, and yet it is also rather underrated. It is the only sense that is directly connected to the emotions via the limbic system of the brain, which is why you can smell a whiff of perfume or the scent of a certain place and be immediately whisked into a powerful emotionally-charged memory.

So take some time to put some thought into creating powerful scent-memories for your partner. Perhaps you have a certain perfume or cologne you wear only when you are in the mood to make love, so every time your partner smells that scent on you in the future, they immediately know how you’re feeling (and will most likely be aroused at the thought!).

Make sure your bedroom smells nice, and that you practice good hygiene. Take a moment to sneak into the bathroom and brush your teeth, don’t eat onions for dinner if you have “other plans” for dessert, and make sure that any lubricants or other sexy-time products you use have pleasant odors.

Taste

Aside from making sure your body tastes good (aka, the good hygiene we mentioned above!) you can play with taste in many other ways when it comes to sex. There are many foods that are considered aphrodisiacs, including- believe it or not- ginsing, apples, and asparagus. Cook with them for dinner, or bring them right into the bedroom with you!

You can also select from a wide variety of flavored lubes, body paints, and condoms to sweeten things up a bit, but just make sure they are all organic and do not have any food dyes in them.

Sound

Finally, the sense of sound. You can use the sound of your voice, whispering dirty secrets into your partner’s ears or screaming their name during the height of your lovemaking, but you can also use sound in many other ways.

A really fun way to use sound is to use suggestive music. Some styles of music are more inherently sensual than others, and some have lyrics that you can “act out” on your partner. Consider creating a sexy playlist to surprise your partner with.

Depriving You or Your Partner Of Certain Senses

One more thing to consider is playing with the absence of certain senses during sex. Blindfolds, earplugs, trying to limit touch, trying to stay silent- all of these practices can not only make sex more interesting, but can also heighten your experience of your other senses.

Try All 5!

So the next time you and your partner have sex  really focus not only on experiencing all five of your senses during sex, but also be sure to do things that stimulate all five of their senses, too. Don’t forget to go slow and be really intentional about everything you are doing. Trust me- you’ll both have a much deeper and more sensual experience.